Unconventional families are more conventional than most traditional family set ups nowadays!
So, how do you go about wedding planning when you have an unconventional family?
Firstly, don’t panic – who says you have to go with tradition?- Especially if you haven’t got a traditional family – You’re not alone (Mine’s not exactly traditional either) but more importantly, don’t let it stress you out.
Here’s 5 things to make it easier:-
MAKE SURE EVERYBODY MEETS BEFORE YOUR WEDDING DAY – AND IN A NEUTRAL PLACE
Partners parents, divorced parents, new partner of divorced parents, stepchildren etc…break down any barriers in advance to hopefully avoid any conflicts on your wedding day.
SET YOUR OWN RULES
And tell everyone what you expect of them before your day when it comes to them getting along. Make sure there’s no sarcastic comments flying around or sniping with each other on YOUR day.
THROW TRADITION OUT OF THE WINDOW
Who says your Dad has got to walk you down the aisle, if you’ve got a better relationship with your new Step-Dad.
If your Step-Brother is also your best friend, have him as your male matron of honour.
As I have said many times before, it is YOUR day, make it YOUR way.
WORK ON YOUR SEATING PLAN
The seating plan can be stressful enough when there’s a conventional family. Wedding planning when you have an unconventional family can be an absolute nightmare, but you need to make sure you have the right seating plan in place.
If it’s too much trouble to arrange a top table to keep everyone happy, don’t have one at all, or have a sweetheart table just for you and your partner.
If the whole thing about arranging your seating plan fills you with fear – Don’t have one at all and let your Guests sit where they like!
MAKE EVERYONE COUNT
Some family members (especially “step family” may feel pushed out when it comes to your wedding planning. One way to overcome this is to give everyone small tasks to do for your wedding, e.g. helping with venue decorating, planning your hen/stag party or even acting as peace make. That way everyone feels involved.
If the thought of wedding planning when you have an unconventional family fills you with SO much fear – You could always consider an elopement wedding.
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